Communicating and Connecting with Impact
In life communicating and connecting with others to have an impact requires particular shifts in the way we think and act. In particular, the action comes in how we treat and interact with one another. I’m an unabashed advocate for bringing meaning to every interaction we have with those in our personal and professional lives. I believe we assume too often that others know how we feel about them and what our good intentions are and mean. Naturally these are assumptions that rarely lead to desired outcomes.
So, then how do communicate and connect with others AND have a positive impact on those whom we lead? In today’s episode of “Work That Matters”, Emmy-winning, former NBC and Wall Street Journal reporter Kare Anderson shares insightful and thoughtful ideas and tips to help you communicate and connect with impact. Below is one great nugget from the interview to connect with someone.
- Have a thread to the conversation: respond to what was said and not give an example that comes to mind that makes sense to you. Keep the attention focused on the person.
- Listen for sweet spots: these are shared interests between you and the other person and build on them
- Be an “Opportunity Maker:” Find items of interest to the person and share it with them, for example, an article or a book that is relevant to their areas of interest or in your shared sweet spot
Quotes from Kare
- “It’s not about me, and it’s not about you – it’s about the best ‘us’ we can create.”
- “I talk about the feeling you get of being seen and heard and someone witnessing your life. And [these] alone are powerful concepts.”
- “If you’re very clear and specific about the priorities of the team you’re supervising, and you don’t tell them how to do [their work] but what the end goal is, then you’re giving them a reason to participate, to dive in, to adjust.”
- “Show warmth and competence [in that order], not the reverse. And it’s more likely to build trust and credibility.”
- “Working with people extremely different than us is often where we get the best adventure, the most opportunities, and the fastest learning.”
- “You’ll be more sought after when you cite ways that can help other people and ways you can work better together.”
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