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Posted by on Jan 23, 2013 in Culture, Engagement, Featured, Inspirational, Leadership, Return On Morale | 13 comments

What Trust Gets You

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Recently, I wrote a post on The Law of Trust, in which I shared the five necessary conditions I use before I’ll invest my time, energy, and – most important, my heart – in a leader. That post focuses on establishing trust in the first place, to get others to follow your lead. But once you have a follower (or a company-sized group of them for that matter) then what?

Why is trust so important for a leader in the long run?

In a word, faith.

A leader whose people trust her, who have faith in her, will give her the benefit of the doubt when things go wrong. They’ll stick with her when she stumbles, or when the group fails as a unit. That faith, that trust, is like money in the bank saved for a rainy day. Without it, a leader’s people will desert her at the first time of trouble.

 

How do you measure sales that don’t happen, or talent that doesn’t come aboard?

 

This could be physically, as in quitting the team, the business unit, or the company. It could also be emotional, and this may actually be worse. When people come to work disgruntled, they won’t put in their best effort. They’ll infect newcomers with their negative attitudes. Their customers will catch the vibe. So will potential customers, and potential employees. How do you measure sales that don’t happen, or talent that doesn’t come aboard? Yet these unmeasurables can spell the slow, painful death of an organization.

 

Lincoln kept choosing ineffective generals before finally selecting Grant; enough Americans trusted Lincoln that he was not thrown out of office before he could make that final, winning choice.

 

On the other hand, it is trust that provides the opportunity to lead the team out of danger when trouble strikes – as it always will, no matter how amazing a leader one is. For instance…

  • Lincoln kept choosing ineffective generals before finally selecting Grant; enough Americans trusted Lincoln that he was not thrown out of office before he could make that final, winning choice
  • Edison resisted moving from Direct Current to Alternating Current for far too long; had his investors not trusted him, he would have lost control of his company and might have died a failure
  • The people of South Africa trusted Nelson Mandela to lead them out of white rule and into democracy peacefully, rather than through bloody revolution; trust made all the difference to the entire nation
  • Oprah Winfrey has moved markets and changed lives through only one thing: the trust of her fans; there is a world full of entertainers, but only one Oprah (Does every show she films, every article she writes, every product she endorses, delight and amaze? Hardly… yet because she has built an immense reservoir of trust, she survives these stumbles with hardly a second’s thought)

How about you, Mr. or Ms Leader?

Do your people trust you? When you stumble, do they forgive you and remain by your side, or do they roll your eyes at each other and say, “Here he goes again?”

 

The higher we get on the org chart, the less in-touch most of us are with our people

 

Chances are very high you cannot answer this question properly yourself.

The higher we get on the org chart, the less in-touch most of us* are with our people – and most leaders compound this tendency, of isolation-through-position, by surrounding themselves with yes-men or with like-minded individuals. That means few leaders can trust someone to tell them when their people have lost trust in them.

Who tells you when your baby is ugly? And what is the price of not knowing?

 

*Most of us, but not all of us. See for yourself how this enterprise CEO stays in touch with his frontline staff. If he can do it… Need I go on?

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Ted Coine (88 Posts)

Author | Speaker | Consultant Ted Coiné is one of the most influential business leaders on Twitter, with a following of over two hundred thousand and growing rapidly. He has been ranked by both Huffington Post and Forbes for his business leadership and social media influence. An inspirational speaker, Ted is author of Five-Star Customer Service and Spoil ’Em Rotten! Prior to writing his first book, Ted was founder and CEO of Coiné Language School, a B2B company he brought from his living room to a $10 million valuation in four years by focusing relentlessly on customer service. He is currently writing his third book, about how social media is transforming leadership and business in this exciting new century. Ted and his family live in Naples, Florida, where he is active in the tech startup scene.


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  • http://www.thecollaborationimperative.com Ron Ricci

    Keep it going, Ted, you are asking all the right questions. For me, faith is an outcome of trust. Faith is most important when you and your team enter unchartered terroritory. During times of ambiguity, it’s critical for leaders to distinguish between the difference between desperation and aspiration. As leaders, it’s our responsibility to “frame” faith by making sure it is clear why the future is built on opportunity and not fear. @RonRicciCisco

    • http://www.shiftandswitch.com Ted Coine

      Thanks for your continued support and encouragement, Ron. Your point is essential for any leader to hear. Fear and the environment of contraction it perpetuates – no company can last for long with such a cultural mindset in place. Winning leaders observe the uncertainty of our times and see only opportunity! Their courage is contagious.

      One man’s chaos is another man’s adventure. Who would you rather follow?

  • http://ellengizmo.wordpress.com Eleonore Caron

    I am a new author of a children’s book. I am also a lowly worker at a hotel as a room attendant. This is what bothers me, my boss is always pointing out little details of mistakes and criticizes. I just wish she would put as much effort into praising a job well done. There is an old saying “you can catch more bees with with honey than vinegar” in other words I’d feel better about my job if I got a pat on the back once in a while. I take pride in my work and it would be good for morale and in turn it would be good for business. Leaders in business and politics should remember to praise as well as criticize but I think praise goes a long way in benefitting everyone. I liked your post and it inspires me to think about ways to improve myself. Thank you.

    • http://www.shiftandswitch.com Ted Coine

      Thank you for your kind words, Eleonore! If I may do so humbly, I’d like to correct you on one point: you aren’t a lowly anything! My mother was a “lowly” secretary for years – most of her career. She is the most intelligent person I know; she is also one of the least-lowly. I waited tables and bartended, not always at the swankiest joints. I wasn’t lowly. My favorite, though, is Sylvester Stallone: he shoveled up elephant poop at the zoo to keep food on the table as he wrote and tried to sell “Rocky,” which won the Oscar for Best Picture, among other accolades. There is no such thing as lowly work, just lowly people – some of whom drive Ferraris and work on Wall Street.

      Anyway, you’re absolutely, completely right about your boss. unfortunately, companies often scrimp and save exactly where they shouldn’t, on new-manager training. It’s more than likely no one has ever shown your boss a better way – more pleasant and more effective for her, and more beneficial to your company.

      I recommend you pick up a copy of Ken Blanchard’s “Whale Done!” and give it to her anonymously. It’s all about leading with honey rather than vinegar.

      By the way: I’m very psyched for you that you’re writing a children’s book. My kids are 8 and 10. Let me know when you publish, and I’ll make sure to grab a copy!

  • http://pivotpointsolutions.net andy_mcf

    Great to see more dialogue on the value/importance of trust. Your readers may [also] benefit from Covey’s new look at trust. He calls it one of the most fundamental elements in relationships and societies and tackles the subject in five “waves”. More here… http://bit.ly/NmtrcB

    • http://www.shiftandswitch.com Ted Coine

      Thanks Andy, that’s great! My reading list is as long as my arm, but I’m going to make room on it for the fine work of Steven Covey. He’s one of my favorites.

  • http://@gauthierjohann Johann aka MR.Renaissance

    Really good post Ted! Trust is such an important value. In our fast-paced and constantly changing times, leaders need to bring their whole person to the table. I refer to this as “being authentic” and “in the now”. Leaders can easily get derailed and they do! Standing firm and tall, not surrounded by fog, helps but this requires to get out of comfort zones and be vulnerable. Not always easy, but letting go of the ego is so needed. Leaders don’t need titles. Without respect, trust is hard to obtain. Google studied this at length. People leave orgs because of bad managers/leaders. But we can’t use this excuse for not being thruthful and honest as well! g8 connexion!

    • http://www.shiftandswitch.com Ted Coine

      Johann, Bad leaders do indeed drive people away more than any other factor, and the most talented among the workforce leave first. What company can afford to be stuck with the leftovers when that happens?

      I’m so with you: giving your people your full attention and energy when you lead – if you don’t enjoy people, surely there’s something you’d be better suited at than business, right!? Oiy.

      I also agree with you here: great connection. I’m really glad to have you as part of the growing Switch and Shift community of Extraordinary Thinkers!

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  • http://www.bluegurus.com Mic

    Great post, Ted! My favorite part was this line, which I have seen all too many times from “leaders” I’ve worked with and for…. “The higher we get on the org chart, the less in-touch most of us* are with our people – and most leaders compound this tendency, of isolation-through-position, by surrounding themselves with yes-men or with like-minded individuals. That means few leaders can trust someone to tell them when their people have lost trust in them.”

    • http://www.shiftandswitch.com Ted Coine

      Thanks Mic. Group think, and the isolation of leaders that it stems from, is so common it’s… well, it’s almost trite by now, isn’t it? To the old saw, “It’s lonely at the top,” my best advice is, “Not if you walk out of your corner office and manage by walking around it isn’t, dumb ass!”

      Oh, well. If we didn’t have bad leaders, how could new companies ever develop to steal all their marketshare?

  • Kathy Nicklaus

    Hey Ted!
    Fun to find you after the few years that have passed since we last spoke!
    Knowing my past, would you give me a few “pointers” on how to get over when leadership that you trusted and had full faith in not only lets you down but crushes you?
    I am getting back on the horse and trotting but would love to be in that “full gallop” mode!
    Great job on the blog! All the best to you!
    Kathy

    • http://www.thecollaborationimperative.com Ron Ricci

      Kathy – Trust is not easily regained. I’ve often said that it is in times of crisis that you truly understand the culture of an organization. It’s easy to be positive during the good times; the bad times tend to show someone’s true colors — because that’s when leaders have to make real choices. During times of transformation,organizations change for only one of two reasons — either out of aspiration or desperation. Did the leaders of your previous organization articulate an apsiration of the change? Were they clear about what success looks like in the new order? Did they articulate a credible strategy to execute through the transition? How you answer these questions will likely guide you to believe (or not) that the leaders can regain your trust. Good luck!

    • http://www.switchandshift.com Ted Coine

      Hi Kathy,

      It’s awesome to hear from you again, too! Small world, this Interwebs, ain’t it? Knowing your situation on a personal level as I do, this is a conversation best held offline.

      However, I will say this as a general thing when it comes to moving on from a bad, or even a dramatic, employment experience: hard as it can be, the most effective way we can move on emotionally is to live in the good present or the promising future, and not look back. Looking back on a bad situation revives anger, resentment; even trauma in cases of PTSD.

      Advice is always easy to give, hard to get. I’m not about to be patronizing (especially to a friend) and say anything so callous as, ‘Just get over it.” That’s not what this is about, at all! Rather, I’ll share something I learned from an early mentor: “The greatest revenge is massive success!”

      And the nice thing that I personally have found by this is, when you’re massively successful, you’re able to look back, shrug your shoulders, and say “eh.” As in, ‘I don’t care enough to bother with revenge now. Too busy enjoying this success.’